Wow that appears awfully familiar. Ouch. I really hope you both are doing well now.
It never ever also entered my head up to now when I ended up being divided, against me in terms of finance/custody because I feared my ex would find out and somehow use it. Then again, 1)I’m paranoid in general, and 2)our divorce or separation went really efficiently and ended up being finalized quickly. Don’t know what I would personally do if it dragged down for a long time.
In terms of dating somebody who’s separated, I did date a guy that is separated it didn’t work away; however, I’m seeing another separated guy now and it also seems to be exercising. Big difference between your two after we met, after I asked him “hey, don’t remember, when did you say your guys’ court date was? ” that’s how I found out there had never been a court date as I see it, is this: 1) guy #1 had originally lied to me saying he was divorced, and only admitted to being separated about six weeks.